Who was Tam Al'thor. well first thing to ask would be "does this have any relevance what so ever to the plot of WOT" I for one don't think so. so yeah you can fantasize all you want about him being a warder to his wife and all but lets face it his ship has sailed he's had a pretty full life and is quite content to be a farmer. so what if he was once a soldier so what if he raised the dragon reborn the point is that it doesn't matter who he WAS all that matters is who he IS and who he IS a retired soldier turned farmer turned teacher to young protectors of the two rivers turned farmer again and worried father of the man that is humanity's only hope.